Yes, yes, yes!! I am still alive and well with slight sleep deprivation because you know…motherhood and stuff! Haha! No, I have not forgotten about blogging! In fact, I thought about blogging almost every single day even though I’ve been on hiatus for almost 5 months! It feels good to be able to blog again, but I have a feeling that I won’t be blogging as regularly as I used to. I am still trying to balance this motherhood thing and life in general because there are tons of things that I can’t do much anymore now that I have a baby who needs constant attention every hour of the day! And you know what, it is perfectly fine by me because her little smile always makes my day!
Anyway, for today’s post I wanted to share with you some lessons I learned (mostly I had to figure it out by myself) from being a first time mom in the past 6 months! My little peanut just turned 6 months a few days ago and I JUST CAN’T BELIEVE HOW FAST TIME FLIES! <insert cry face emoji> I just don’t want her to grow up so fast, but at this age she is so much fun! I love her little personality (despite her crying for no reason sometimes), but she is mostly a happy baby!
So, here are the things I learned from being a mom in 6 months:
Don’t Be So Hard on Yourself
This is pretty much true till this day! As a new mom, there are so many things that you learn on the go. Never two days are the same, and a lot of times you just have to “wing it”! There are days when you feel like you are not doing anything right, but in actual fact you probably are doing the best you could to provide for your child. When Natasha was a couple months old, I would worry about her not getting enough food to eat and I was constantly stressing about my milk supply. She would cry so much during the first couple months and that led me to believe that she is not getting enough to eat. She was also on the lower percentile for her weight. I’m sure all that stressed probably caused my supply to decrease momentarily. But when I stopped worrying about the little things, it made me feel better and just try to enjoy every moment I have with her.
Follow Your Instincts
The motherly instincts are so unbelievable! You could read all the parenting books in the world, follow a certain sleep plan or a feeding schedule and what not, but in the end you have to trust your instincts and follow your baby cues. A lot of parenting books out there are guidelines for you. You know your baby best! Back to the topic of feeding, there are so many articles about feeding times. I’m pretty sure I googled this topic a dozen times since becoming a mom. Some experts says every 2 to 3 hours, some said 4 hours and some said to feed on demand. I remembered following a feeding time so religiously that I knew I missed tons of hunger cues from Natasha for the first couple months. And a lot of times I had the feeling that her cries were probably due to hunger and should have just fed her on demand instead of following a set time.
Start Implementing Routine/ Schedules
Babies are creatures of habit. They like having routines because they know what to expect next. The first few months with Natasha, we did not really have a set routine or sleeping schedules for her. She will napped whenever, and her bed time always changes. At one point her bedtime was at 10pm and I didn’t went to bed till midnight! No wonder I felt tired in the morning. Natasha was a great sleeper for the first 3 months until she had her 4 month sleep regression and everything went down hill pretty quickly. She stopped taking naps, she would only fall asleep while nursing and/or being rocked, and as soon as I lay her in her crib she’ll start wailing! I lost tons of sleep during those rough periods, and I knew I had to do something about it. It took me about 2 months to finally have a set nap and bed time for Natasha and it seem to be working pretty well. For now anyways…
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask For Help
This right here is especially important! As a new mom, I’m constantly struggling to maintain daily house chores while taking care of a baby at the same time. I am someone who loves to do everything by herself, and only ask for help when I really need it. If I can do it, I will do it. Don’t be afraid to ask help from friends or family members if you are feeling overwhelmed. You could also split house chores between you and your partner or take turns watching the baby while you or your partner picked the house up. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. Sometimes a little help does go a long way! Oh and speaking of partners….
Get Your Spouse/Partner Involved
Bonding with our baby comes naturally to most of us since day 1. That is because we were already bonding with the baby in utero for 9 months. Dad on the other hand, has not quite developed that special bond between baby and him yet, so it is exceptionally important to get your spouse involved with daily baby stuff like changing the diapers, feed the baby if you’re bottle feeding, or let Dad give the baby a bath. It takes a while for Dad to be emotionally attached to baby even though she is his child.
Be Present At All Times
In this day and age, everyone and their grandparents own a cell phone. I try to not use my phone (except to take pictures, videos and occasionally glancing Instagram) so much when I am around Natasha. I try to be as present as I can for her. I don’t want to miss any of her milestones or all the little things she does like when she starts blabbing, I will talk to her back. Babies need constant attention, so give her all the attention she wants. Remember, your baby is only this young once, so entertain your baby as much as you can even when your baby is being a little crab apple which for me is everyday! Haha!
I hope you guys enjoy my first “mom” post! Don’t worry guys, I will still continue to do my beauty and style posts! In fact, I already have a beauty post lined up for next week, so stay tuned!
If you are a first time mom or have been a mommy for a while, what lessons did you learned or picked up along the way? Leave me comments below. I would love to read your thoughts on motherhood!
Thanks for reading everyone!XOXO ❤